This weekend I went to The Vault Festival to see “This Charming Man”, by Sian Davies. A stand up comedian who enlightens us with her story. “An exploration of masculinity, gender and identity from a self-identifying butch woman who has an unhealthy obsession with The Smiths.” as the Vaults website describes the show. This show made me self reflect, everything in London seems to be making me reflect. Sian tries to educate her audience in what’s right and what’s wrong. The most important question she asks is: where do we draw the line? She tells a story of how a father figure in her life made her love sports, was an amazing mentor while at the same time was malesting his own daughters (he is now in jail). So should she remember him as the monster he is or as the father figure he was to her? How her pastor made her happy, love God and love her community at the same time making her believe there was something wrong with her for being different.
This reminded me of my heritage and all the things I was taught to believe were right or wrong. So where do we draw the line? The grandmother who taught me to love baking and inspired me to be strong and go against the current but at that same time said homophobic or racist comments. Where do we draw the line? Is this an uncertainty? Do we stand back from all the people that “do something wrong” in our eyes? Or do we let them grow and experience the change? They could than do the same to us for thinking differently. So where do we draw the line?